This is a contributor’s blogpost …
After suffering a setback, such as losing a job, ending a relationship or even a bereavement, it can be difficult to bounce back. It might take time, and it will take a lot of healing, but you can get there. There are some things you can do to try and boost your self-confidence and make sure you ‘get back on the horse,’ as they say. Take a look at the following advice and see if some of it can work for you.
Take a break
There is such a thing as an ‘appreciation break’ designed to help us focus on our self-esteem. Even if you just need to get away for a day, or a few days, a break to clear your head could be what you need to assess what went wrong and what your next steps are. If you’re stressed at work, there’s nothing wrong with taking a few days to work things out and regrouping without the pressure of deadlines or meetings getting in the way. If you need a longer break, that’s ok too – plan a vacation or a staycation and take some time to focus on you and enjoying yourself to help you get into a more positive frame of mind.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel good
Happy, carefree people are infectious, and surrounding yourself with them can make you forget about your worries and focus on having fun instead. It could be friends or family or anyone else you know that might make you feel good – even your favourite TV comedy or film could fill this need. There are people you will share your problems with and there are people you will have fun with, remember this when you choose to hang out with them and know where to go when you need a good time away from your concerns.
See a life coach
To help build yourself back up after a setback, try seeing a life coach. They are there to help you achieve your goals using manageable steps to get there, and you might be surprised by the progress you make by seeing one regularly. Who knows, after experiencing the benefits for yourself, you may wish to consider life coach courses from Animas coaching as a way to help others through similar experiences. The courses can be very rewarding and a great extra hobby to have.
Putting your energies and focus into helping others can soon put things into perspective. You could volunteer or help out friends and family with different tasks as a way to not only forget about the things that you’re feeling, but doing a good deed for others too. If you believe in karma, you’ll know that what goes around comes around, so channeling your energy into something positive like helping others will come back to you in unexpected ways.
It’ll take some time, but your self-confidence will come back, Take baby steps and don’t expect to bounce back straight away, just take things one day at a time and those blue skies will soon return, leaving you a stronger and better person at the end of it.